Pronouns
At QueerPsych, as a LGBTQ+ mental health community, our mission is to celebrate everyone for who they are. We integrate pronouns into our everyday work to set a tone of respect for one another and create an affirming environment for the LGBTQ+ community members.
He/Him/His
She/Her/Hers
They/Them/Theirs
Ze/Zir/Zirs
Why Pronouns Matter?
Often used during introductions or while referencing someone during a conversation, pronouns help you know how someone would like to be addressed in any given situation.
Pronouns & Gender Identity - Ask, don’t Assume!
She/They
He/They
All pronouns welcome
Just my name please!
Gender identity is our internal, individual experience of gender.
It is directly linked to our sense of self and the sense of being male, female, both, or neither.
While pronouns are pivotal to an individual’s gender identity and how they relate to the world and others, it is important to keep in mind that a person’s pronouns are not exclusively linked to gender and may not match your perception of that individual.
Don't Make Assumptions
Your assumption can leave a person feeling invalidated and dismissed. Taking the time to get to know a person better will help everyone feel more connected and respected.
Remember, mistakes happen and that’s okay!
When in doubt, use neutral pronouns (they/them) when referencing someone until you have a chance to ask. Like with anything worth doing, practice makes perfect and your efforts will be appreciated. This is how we operate at The Center, too: Until we can ask an individual or a group of people how they identify, we default to neutral language. This includes our communications in both English and Spanish.
Acknowledge your mistake.
Acknowledge your mistake the same as you would any other—recognize, apologize and move on. For Spanish, where almost every adjective, noun, and article are either grammatically masculine (with the letter O) or feminine (with the letter A), there are a wide variety of adaptations that can be used to convey gender neutrality. Our approach is to replace the O or the A with the letter E.
Share your pronouns when introducing yourself.
For example: “My name is Renaldo and I use they/them pronouns.”
Include your pronouns in your email signature.
Include your pronouns in your email signature, on name tags at events, in your zoom name, and on your social media bio.
Use gender neutral language.
When addressing groups of people or people whose pronouns have not been shared with you, use gender neutral language such as “elle” instead of “el” or “ella,” “siblings,” “students,” “all” or “folks” rather than “brothers and sisters,” “guys,” “sir,” etc…
Practice shows commitment.
Putting pronouns into practice shows your commitment to building an affirming space for all types of identities and experiences. We encourage you to use and share these tips.